Will The Real Me Stand Up ???
As a teenager, I remember hearing the phrase “Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?” This line from Eminem's song, kept me wondering what it truly meant. Whenever I saw the lyrics or heard the song itself . At the time, it sounded like a simple line, but as life unfolded, I began to understand how deeply reflective that question really is.
Over the years, I encountered the phrase again through the writings of John Powell, and it began to take on an even deeper meaning for me.
Because the truth is, many of us spend years becoming versions of ourselves shaped by:
- survival
- pressure
- expectations
- fear
- performance
- pain
- approval
Until one day, we quietly begin to ask:
Who am I beneath all of this?
Not the version people applaud.
Not the version built to cope.
Not the version trained to hide weakness.
The real me.
And perhaps one of the hardest journeys in life is confronting that person honestly.
There comes a moment in every woman’s journey where she must stop running from herself and start confronting what is true.
- Not the polished version.
- Not the performative version.
- Not the version built for approval.
The real version !!!
The woman behind the smile.
The woman carrying silent fears.
The woman with hidden wounds, unanswered questions,
evolving dreams, and unfinished healing.
Growth begins the moment we stop avoiding ourselves.For many of us, pretending became survival. We learned how to appear strong while quietly feeling disconnected within. We mastered functioning — showing up, producing, performing — without ever fully confronting the areas God was still refining in us.
And I’ll be honest with you: I know what that looks like from the inside.
But here is what I’ve had to come back to again and again —God never called us to perfection before process.
He called us to surrender within the process.
“We are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
— Ephesians 2:10
A masterpiece is not rushed. It is shaped carefully, intentionally, and progressively. Which means two things can be true at exactly the same time:
✔ You are already deeply loved.
✔ And God is still working on you.
You are not disqualified because you are unfinished. The refining does not remove your value. It reveals it.
I want to be specific here, because I think we can spiritualize this into something vague and safe. Confronting yourself is not a performance. It’s not journaling the right things or saying the right words in prayer. It’s an honest reckoning with what’s actually present inside you.
It means sitting with the parts of yourself you’ve kept in the margins:
— Confronting fear — the kind that has been making decisions for you
— Confronting inconsistency — the gap between who you say you are and how you’re actually living
— Confronting insecurity — the voice that tells you that you are too much or never enough
— Confronting emotional patterns — the reactions that keep showing up uninvited
— Confronting unhealthy thinking — the narratives that have been running on repeat
Not to shame yourself — but to heal, mature, and align.
This is the work. And it is holy work.
They Confronted Before They Could Lead
We are not the first women to face this kind of reckoning. Scripture is full of people who had to be honest before they could be used.
David confronted loneliness in the wilderness long before he confronted Goliath in public. Joseph sat with the weight of the pit, the false accusation, the prison — the long, confusing process — before he ever walked into leadership. And Esther confronted her fear, named it, and chose purpose anyway.
Transformation has always required honesty.
No more pretending. No more hiding. No more avoiding the conversation God has been trying to have with you.
A DARE Woman chooses truth over comfort — because what we avoid often controls us. But what we confront can begin to heal.
This Season Is About Becoming
This season is not about becoming someone else. It is not about fixing yourself into a more acceptable shape. It is not about measuring up.
It is about becoming who God designed you to be before fear, pressure, comparison, disappointment, and survival tried to reshape you.
You are God’s masterpiece. The word in Ephesians is “poiema” — poem, work of art, crafted creation. You were not mass-produced. You were made.
And you are still becoming. So do this instead
- Give yourself permission to grow slowly.
- Grow honestly.
- Grow intentionally.
The process is not proof of failure. It is evidence that God is still forming something beautiful within you.
Reflection Questions
Take these with you into your quiet time this week.
- What part of myself have I been avoiding confronting?
- Where is God inviting me into deeper honesty right now?
- What patterns must I release to become more aligned with who He made me to be?
- What would change in my life if I stopped pretending and started healing?
I encourage you to embrace the truth, the healing, the transformation and trust the becoming process.
Face it!
Feel it!!
Own it and Become it !!!
